OK, you may have noticed we're on a bit of a theme this week. And if we're going to talk about apprenticeship, we also need to talk about mentors.
This is a time when we need mentors more than ever. We need leaders we can respect and look up to, heroes to emulate, role models to learn from, footsteps to follow. Our individualistic culture has given us many gifts: freedom, a sense of possibility, a belief in our own abilities... but to a degree, it has also turned us inward and shaped the belief that it all begins and ends with ourselves.
Mom and Dad: if you're reading this, you'll remember the famous words of adolescence... "I'd rather make my own mistakes."
OK, fine... but as much as it's good to have initiative, to demonstrate independence, to learn something for ourselves—if we don't also have mentors, teachers and guides, we can spend a lot of time lost in the woods, re-discovering fire and re-inventing the wheel. I believe in experiential learning, but there's no reason for everyone to start from scratch. That's just wasting time that could be spent making headway on some of the really important problems we face: finding solutions to violence, hunger, injustice, poverty, and an environment decaying at a seemingly exponential rate.
We could be standing on the shoulders of giants, seeing so much further into both past and future... if only we could find someone who's been through some of the things, someone to learn from, someone to trust. We can read about those people with the big ideas, listen to them on TED, follow them on social media, peruse their blogs, listen to their podcasts... but can we really connect on a personal level, learn one-on-one, share our missteps and ask for advice? Maybe so; maybe the future mechanism is different than the traditional one.
And what if we could take the time to BE one of those people for the next guy? We don't have to be the one with ALL the answers, but surely each of us has learned something of value along the way, in some area of our life, that could be a cornerstone for someone else out there. Can we be generous enough to share freely?
A mentor is someone who comes to meet us where we are and walks with us to the destination we're travelling towards, telling us stories and pointing out landmarks along the way. "That's where the bear almost got me; the water in that spring is pure; watch out for the loose rocks on the side of that hill...and just over there, almost hidden from sight, is a rare flower that only grows here... but you need to keep your eyes open or you'll miss it."
Build relationships of trust, share ideas and experiences generously, reach for the stars; find a mentor, be a mentor.